Lil Wayne’s How to Love: A Powerful Wake-Up Call for Every Woman to Heal and Embrace Her True Worth

In the video, we see two versions of the same woman — one trapped in her wounds, repeating cycles of pain and self-sabotage, and the other standing in her power, attracting love, joy and success. The contrast between these two versions of herself is like looking in a mirror and seeing the two possible realities we can create in our lives. Which path we walk depends on whether we operate from our wounded feminine energy or from an empowered, high-value place.

The Wounded Feminine: Caught in the Same Cycle

The wounded version of the woman in “How to Love” broke my heart. There’s a moment in the video where she’s in an abortion clinic, and as she contemplates her decision, tears run down her face. It’s like all her pain, all her heartbreak, and all her unresolved trauma from her past come rushing back to her. She runs out of the clinic, crying, consumed by the weight of the choices she’s made and the life she’s been living.She’s not just crying over the moment at hand — she’s grieving the life she’s built, the men she’s chosen, and the way her wounds have shaped her.

”You had a lot of moments that didn’t last forever, Now you in a corner tryna put it together, How to love, how to love.”

In this moment, it’s clear she’s been through a lot. She’s had relationships that were fleeting, men who came and went whenever it was convenient, each one leaving her more broken than the last. She doesn’t know what real love looks like because she’s never experienced it — not from others, and not from herself. So she feeds off whatever breadcrumb a man gives her thinking that that is love. It is the closest to love and connection she gets.Her lack of self-worth has led her down a path of painful choices. She’s dated men who were never really there for her — men who, as Lil Wayne sings, were just crooks, stealing her heart and leaving her feeling more unworthy.

”You can’t have a man look at you for five seconds without you being insecure.”

This line hits deep. She’s in constant self-doubt when she’s with a man, feeling insecure, second-guessing herself, and wondering if she’s enough. Men can sense this energy. They can feel when a woman doesn’t love or respect herself. And when a man senses that you don’t love yourself, he knows that you won’t be able to truly love or respect him either. Because you can’t give what you don’t have.

”The way you’re moving your body, like you never had a love.”

This lyric captures how the wounded feminine moves through the world. She’s never had the kind of love that makes her feel safe and seen, so her actions reflect that. The way she interacts with men, the way she shows up in relationships, it’s all a reflection of the deep lack of love she feels for herself.

”When you was just a youngin’, your looks were so precious But now you’re grown up, so fly, it’s like a blessing.”

As a child, she was precious, innocent, and full of potential. But life has worn her down. The world has taken its toll, and now she’s struggling to hold onto the sense of value she once had. She’s forgotten her worth, and that’s why she’s making choices from a wounded place.

When Our Wounds Shape Our Choices

The video then shows her stripping, serving bottles in a club, and seeking attention from men who don’t care about her. She’s using her body to get validation and money because deep down, she doesn’t believe she’s worthy of love or money for anything beyond that.

It’s painful to watch, but it’s something so many women can relate to. When our feminine energy is wounded, we make decisions that reflect how we see ourselves. We exchange our self-worth for whatever perceived security that we can get. If we don’t believe we’re worthy of love, if we don’t see ourselves as enough, we settle.

We chase men who string us along. We accept breadcrumbs of affection and attention and mistake them for love because we think that’s all we deserve.And the more we do it, the deeper we get trapped in that cycle. We stop seeing the possibility of something better because our past experiences keep reinforcing the idea that love is hard, love is temporary, and love always ends in heartbreak, which of course is not true because that’s not the nature of True Love.

She’s stuck in this wounded energy, unable to break free because she doesn’t yet realize that the love she’s been looking for has to come from within. She’s looking in all the wrong places, and until she heals those deep wounds, she’ll keep repeating the same patterns. Until she heals, she won’t realize that love is not something you chase outside of you, but something you cultivate within you.

Love is something you become. Love is something you already inherently are, you just forgot. And as you become it, you naturally attract it.

”You deserve the best, you’re beautiful.”

Lil Wayne’s lyrics here speak to the heart of all women — whether we’re wounded or healed, we all deserve the best. We are all beautiful, worthy of love, and capable of so much more than we give ourselves credit for. But we have to see that for ourselves. We have to start operating from a place of knowing that we are beautiful, knowing we deserve true, lasting love, and knowing we are worthy of the best that life has to offer

.The Empowered Feminine: A Different Reality

But then, we see a different version of her. In this version, she’s radiant, glowing with self-worth. She’s surrounded by healthy, supportive relationships, and when she finds out she’s pregnant, she’s overjoyed. Her life is full of love — not the kind that’s fleeting or conditional, but real, lasting love founded on mutual respect and trust.

”See, you had a lot of crooks tryna steal your heart, Never really had luck, couldn’t never figure out, How to love.”

This version of her knows how to love because she’s learned to love herself. She’s done the inner work, healed the old wounds, and now her energy reflects that. She’s not chasing men who don’t value her. She’s not settling for less than she deserves. Instead, she’s attracting healthy, supportive love that reflects the worth she’s cultivated within herself.The difference is night and day. One version of her is lost in her pain, trapped in a cycle of wounded choices, while the other is standing in her power, creating a life full of love and fulfillment.

Who Are You Choosing to Be?

Watching this video is a reminder of the choices we face as women. Are we going to let our past, our wounds, and our heartbreak define us? Or are we going to heal, step into our worth, and create the love and life we truly deserve?

In my book, “Awaken the High-Value Queen Within: Heal Your Self-Worth, Embody Authentic Femininity, and Manifest Your True King,” I talk about the journey from wounded to empowered feminine energy. It’s not easy, but it’s possible. It is a journey that I too am on.

And if you are reading this, I’m probably just a step or 2 ahead of you which puts me in perfect position to hold your hand in it. I too am still doing the inner works and outer works. I even am crying writing this. And me writing the ebook and these articles and sharing them with you is also part of my inner work and outer work.

When you walk this path of healing, you don’t have to keep dating the same man with a different face. You don’t have to keep repeating the same painful cycles.The universe responds to the energy we put out. When we’re stuck in our wounded feminine energy, we’ll keep attracting men and situations that reflect that.

But when we heal and start showing up as the high-value woman we truly are, everything changes.We begin to attract men who see our worth. We stop settling for relationships that drain us or reinforce the limiting and painful belief that we are unworthy of love. We create a life full of love, support, and genuine connection — because we know deep down that that’s what we deserve.

Your Path, Your Choice

If you’re reading this and it resonates with you, know that you have the power to change your story. You don’t have to stay in the wounded feminine energy that’s been running your life. You can heal, you can grow, and you can step into your worth.I’m here to guide you on that journey. Through my coaching programs, I help women recognize the patterns that are holding them back, heal their wounded feminine energy, and step into their empowered, high-value selves.

If you’re ready to stop repeating the same old patterns and start attracting the love and life you deserve, I invite you to explore my book and coaching programs at http://wynneljoycoling.com.

Because here’s the truth: You’re worthy of love. You’re worthy of a life that lights you up. And the first step to creating that life is knowing how to love yourself.The choice is yours. Which path are you going to walk?